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Church or Cult? How Young People Can Know the Difference

Angeline Wanjiru by Angeline Wanjiru
2 February 2025
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In a world brimming with a diverse array of spiritual groups and movements, young people must develop the ability to distinguish between a genuine church grounded in faith and a potentially harmful cult. Not every assembly that claims the title of “church” upholds the teachings of God’s Word. Some may operate more like commercial enterprises, prioritizing profit over spiritual growth, while others might engage in manipulative practices that can endanger the well-being of individuals. The youth need to navigate this landscape thoughtfully, seeking discernment and wisdom in their spiritual journeys. Some may even harm more than help.

Let’s break down the key differences to help you make wise choices.

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What Makes a True Church?

A genuine church is deeply centered around Jesus Christ and firmly anchored in the teachings of the Bible. Its primary mission is to glorify God by worshiping Him in spirit and truth, nurturing the spiritual growth of believers through discipleship, and actively sharing the message of the gospel with the world. Furthermore, it can be viewed as a gathering of individuals who are temples of the Holy Spirit—each person a unique embodiment of faith, coming together to form a vibrant community dedicated to living out the principles of their faith (Ephesians 4:11-13).

A True Church:

  • Exalts Jesus Christ, not human leaders or idols.
  • Encourages personal growth in faith and understanding of God’s Word.
  • Practices love and grace while standing firm on Gospel truths.

What Is a Cult?

A cult may look like a church but operates on control, fear, and the distortion of Scripture.

Cults:

  • Center on a charismatic leader rather than Jesus.
  • Twist the Bible to fit their agenda.
  • Use guilt and manipulation to dominate members.

How to Spot the Difference

1. Who Is the Focus?

  • Church: Jesus Christ and God’s Word.
  • Cult: The leader, group rules, or new “revelations.”

2. Is There a Transactional Relationship with God?

  • Church: The belief is that salvation and blessings come through faith, grace, and a personal relationship with God—not through transactions or financial contributions.
  • Cult: There is often a notion that individuals must perform certain actions or provide money to the group for God to take notice or respond to their prayers. This creates a sense of obligation rather than genuine faith.

3. Does the Group Teach the Bible as Its Foundation?

  • Church: Encourages studying the Bible, seeking guidance from the Holy Spirit, and applying this knowledge to life.
  • Cult: Twists Scripture or adds teachings not found in the Bible.

4. Do You Feel Free or Controlled?

  • Church: Encourages questions, growth, and love.
  • Cult: Demands blind obedience and instills fear.

5. How Are Resources Used?

  • Church: Tithes and offerings support ministry, outreach, and helping the needy.
  • Cult: Money is often demanded to enrich leaders or fund the group’s agenda.

6. Is There Genuine Love and Community?

  • Church: Members care for one another, encourage each other, and build meaningful relationships.
  • Cult: Relationships are transactional, and loyalty to the group is valued over genuine care.

7. Does the Leader Claim to Be the Only One Who Hears from God?

Followers of a cult hold a deep conviction that communication from God, or the Holy Spirit, is exclusively channeled through their designated leader. This belief places the leader in a position of unparalleled authority, as they are viewed as the sole individual entrusted with divine messages and guidance, while the rest of the members are led to trust and rely on their interpretations and directives.

Biblical Truth:
  • The Holy Spirit is given to all believers, not just one individual, to guide and teach them (John 14:26, Acts 2:17, Romans 8:14).
  • God’s Spirit is poured out on all, regardless of age, gender, or status.
  • Every believer is led by the Spirit, not just a specific leader.
  • Jesus is the only mediator between God and man (1 Timothy 2:5).
  • Jesus says that His followers hear His voice directly; there is no mention of requiring a mediator other than Christ (John 10:27).

Why Does This Matter?

Joining a healthy church nurtures your spiritual journey and strengthens your faith. Falling into a cult can damage your relationship with God and others.

What Should You Do if You’re Unsure?

  • Pray for discernment and guidance.
  • Study the Bible to know God’s truth, and allocate time by yourself.
  • Talk to Trusted Mentors: Seek advice from mature Christians who can help you discern.
  • Watch the Fruit: Jesus said you will know a tree by its fruit (Matthew 7:16-20). Look for love, humility, and truth, not fear, control, or manipulation.

God’s true church is a place of hope, grace, healing, and growth. Don’t settle for less than His best.

Your Thoughts?

  • Have you ever questioned a spiritual group?
  • What do you look for in a church?

If you’re in a place that feels more like a trap than a home, don’t hesitate to seek help or walk away. God’s true church is out there, and He will lead you to it.

Your Turn!

  • What do you look for in a church?
  • Have you ever felt uneasy about a spiritual gathering?
  • Share your thoughts below—let’s grow together!

The Bible: A Reliable and Inspired Account of God’s Plan

1 John 2:24 warns believers to remain grounded in the true gospel they have heard from the beginning. John writes in a context where false teachers were spreading deceptive doctrines that denied Christ’s divinity or misled believers. By staying faithful to the original teachings, believers protect themselves from being swayed by false teachings and ensure they remain in fellowship with both the Son and the Father.

This highlights the need for discernment and steadfastness in the truth amidst spiritual deception.

The Foundational Truth of the Gospel

The message heard “from the beginning” refers to the foundational truth of the gospel—the good news of Jesus Christ. Specifically, this includes:

1. Jesus Christ as the Son of God

  • Jesus is the Messiah, the promised Savior, who came to reconcile humanity to God.
  • He is fully God and fully man (John 1:1-14).

2. Salvation Through Christ Alone

  • Salvation is by grace through faith in Jesus Christ, not by works or any form of transaction (Ephesians 2:8-9).
  • He died for our sins, was buried, and rose again, defeating death and offering eternal life to all who believe (1 Corinthians 15:3-4).

3. The Command to Love

  • Central to the message is Jesus’ teaching to love God and love others (Matthew 22:37-39).
  • In 1 John 2:10, John reminds believers that walking in love is evidence of abiding in the light of Christ.

4. Abiding in Christ

  • The message encourages believers to remain connected to Jesus as the true vine, living in obedience and bearing fruit for God’s glory (John 15:4-5).

This “beginning” points to the consistent, unchanging truth taught by Jesus and passed down by the apostles. It reminds believers to stay anchored in these core doctrines, avoiding false teachings or compromises that dilute the gospel’s power.

The Core Truths of the Gospel

The truths of the gospel are based on the message of Jesus Christ as revealed in the Bible. They include:

1. God’s Love for Humanity

  • God created us out of love and desires a relationship with us (John 3:16).
  • His love is unconditional and extends to everyone, regardless of past actions.

2. The Fall of Humanity

  • Sin entered the world through Adam and Eve, breaking humanity’s relationship with God (Romans 3:23).
  • Sin separates us from God and leads to spiritual death (Romans 6:23).

3. Jesus Christ as Savior

  • God sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to save humanity. Jesus lived a sinless life, died on the cross as a sacrifice for sin, and rose again to give us eternal life (1 Corinthians 15:3-4).
  • Jesus is the only way to God (John 14:6).

4. Salvation by Grace Through Faith

  • Salvation is a gift from God that cannot be earned by works but is received through faith in Jesus Christ (Ephesians 2:8-9).
  • Believing in Jesus brings forgiveness of sins and reconciliation with God.

5. The Indwelling of the Holy Spirit

  • Upon salvation, the Holy Spirit comes to live within the believer, guiding them to the whole truth, empowering, and transforming them to live according to God’s will (John 14:26; Galatians 5:22-23).

6. The Call to Love and Obedience

  • As followers of Christ, we are called to love God with all our heart and love others as ourselves (Matthew 22:37-39).
  • Obedience to God’s Word demonstrates our faith and reflects His character (John 14:15).

7. The Hope of Eternal Life

  • Jesus’ resurrection assures us of eternal life with God (John 11:25-26).
  • There is a promise of a new heaven and new earth where there will be no more pain or suffering (Revelation 21:4).

8. The Mission to Share the Gospel

  • Believers are commissioned to share the good news with others, making disciples of all nations regardless of race, color, or status (Matthew 28:19-20).

These truths form the foundation of the Christian faith, encouraging us to live with hope, love, discernment, and a purpose centered on God’s will.

The Challenges of Leaving a Cult

Leaving a cult is incredibly challenging due to several deeply ingrained psychological, emotional, social, and spiritual factors. Cults are designed to maintain control over their members, making it hard to break free even when a person begins to question the group. Here’s why it’s so hard to leave:

1. Emotional Manipulation and Fear

  • Fear of Punishment or Damnation: Many cults use fear tactics, teaching that leaving will result in divine punishment, eternal damnation, or calamities.
    • Example: “If you leave, you will suffer terminal illnesses, you will be cursed by God,” or “You’ll be cut off from salvation.”
  • Guilt and Shame: Cults make members feel that leaving equates to betrayal, sin, or failure. This creates intense inner conflict.

2. Psychological Conditioning

  • Brainwashing: Members are often subjected to intense indoctrination, where critical thinking is replaced by blind obedience.
    • Example: “The outside world is evil; only we have the truth.”
  • Dependency: Cults foster psychological dependence by isolating members and controlling their thoughts, actions, and even emotions.
  • Cognitive Dissonance: Members rationalize their doubts because the cost of leaving feels higher than staying.

3. Social Pressure

  • Isolation from the Outside World: Cults often isolate members from family and friends, making the cult their only social network.
    • Result: Leaving means losing their entire community and support system.
  • Fear of Rejection: Members fear being shunned, ostracized, or losing relationships with friends or family within the group.
  • Us vs. Them Mentality: Cults teach members to distrust or fear the outside world, making it hard to reach out for help or imagine life beyond the group.

4. Financial and Practical Dependency

  • Control Over Resources: Cults often take financial control, requiring members to give up money, property, or jobs.
  • Lack of Skills or Independence: Members may be discouraged from pursuing education or skills that would allow them to live independently.

5. Spiritual Manipulation

  • Exclusive Access to Salvation: Cults teach that leaving means losing access to God, salvation, or spiritual blessings.
  • Twisted Theology: Members may feel they are betraying their faith or risking eternal consequences by questioning the group.

6. Trauma Bonding

  • Abuse and Dependence: Cult leaders often manipulate through cycles of abuse and reward, creating a trauma bond where members feel they need the group despite the harm it causes.
  • Stockholm Syndrome: Members may defend the group or leader even if they recognize the harm being done.

7. Lack of External Support

  • Stigma and Misunderstanding: Those outside the group may not understand what the member is going through.
  • No Safe Exit Plan: Members often fear retaliation from the cult, whether through public humiliation, threats, or even physical harm.

How to Leave a Cult

  1. Recognize the Manipulation: Acknowledge that the group’s teachings and control
    tactics are harmful and not aligned with the truth.
  2. Seek Support: Connect with trusted people outside the group—family, friends,
    counsellors or support groups experienced in cult recovery.
  3. Educate Yourself: Learn about cult tactics, manipulation, and psychological control
    to rebuild your perspective.
  4. Rebuild Independence: Focus on gaining financial, emotional, and social
    independence to reduce dependency on the group.
  5. Therapy and Counseling: Professional help can address trauma, rebuild
    confidence, and restore healthy thinking patterns.
  6. Strengthen Your Faith (if applicable): Seek spiritual healing through prayer, Bible
    study, and healthy Christian communities that reflect God’s love and truth.

Biblical Hope for Those in Cults

  • John 8:32: “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.“
  • Psalm 34:18: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.“
  • Isaiah 41:10: “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you.“

Leaving a cult is hard, but it is possible with the right mindset, support, resources, and trust
in God’s guidance.

Prayer

Dear God,

I come to You feeling confused and overwhelmed, but I thank You for opening my eyes to the truth. Please give me the courage to step away from anything that does not honor You. Break every chain of fear, guilt, and control in my life, and lead me into Your freedom and peace.

Guide me to Your truth through Your Word in Jesus Christ, and surround me with people who reflect Your love. Strengthen my faith, and help me trust in You alone as my source of guidance and hope.

Thank You for never leaving me. I place my life in Your hands.

In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

Hey, I’m Angeline, your RN and founder of Finally Am Found. With a heart for mentorship, I’ve been guiding teens and young adults since 2017. As a Registered Nurse, I blend medical expertise with personal experiences to create a Christ-aligned space for self-discovery. Connect with Angeline on Facebook and let the journey to self-discovery begin!

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